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Spirit Whispers: On the edge of Tomorrow

“Lao?” “Yes?”   “Is this why old like tubes are appearing around people like old skins and they are shedding off their old stuff?”   “Yes”…   “We fight to stay the same don’t we”.  “yes, but the same isn’t there anymore”….

I have to say that I am really fascinated at the moment with the energy.  Incredibly.  I want to stare into people and look at how far they have come in their understanding.  I want to wake up more people and say REMEMBER who you are.   I’ve been spending huge amounts of time just watching, listening to the Guides and being in awe of how people are getting that they are both the key and the solution to the changes in their worlds.

I wish so much that people could see that things are changing so much that none of the old rules of learning down here apply anymore and we have more choices in front of us than has ever been presented if we can only remember that we are the Creators of our destiny.

Why did we forget?  To empower ourselves to relearn.   Part of the Unlearning is to look at all the learning we have had before, grow from it and move forward into new and more positive choices for ourselves.  The biggest concern is our perception of suffering until we work that one out.  Aren’t you tired of taking a battering?    We hold ourselves in perceptions until too they fade away and we learn even more.

Here’s what I have been extremely fascinated with lately.   Appearing around people is like this old tunnel, it looks grey, faded and worn, its always behind them.  When I first saw it I was what the heck is that?.   Then as I looked further I could see that it was old conditioning, old soul experiences and old understanding, patterns and behaviours.  People had been walking that tunnel for years.  For a moment they are paused at the entrance of that old tunnel, thinking about how far they have come.  They are taking inventory, taking stock of the learning and they are LEARNING that they have more choices than they thought as the old tunnel is fading away with all its conditions and doubts.   In front of them is two new pathways… its like emerging out of the darkness and blinking because its so darn light.  People are pausing and have been pausing, in conjunction with the Universe to take stock, to let the human body catch up and now as the new pathways are forming, it is so time to be planning.   March is an interesting month as it highlights these two new pathways.

When I ask the Guides why two?  Why are there two of them? they have come back with this understanding.  March brings decisions in multiple ways, defined by our courage and our ability to plan.  Again I will say we fight to hold our degrees of suffering because they are what is familiar.  One pathway represents even though it is new, our tendency to play it safe.  Therefore to me while it shines, it shines not as brightly as the other one.  It is the still the playing it safe pathway.  Also we are still fighting with addressing giving ourselves the approval that we need internally, to do with permission to be our authentic selves, hence we are still in the energy of the relationship with self so the pathway safe is appealing…

If our pathway forward is of our own choosing and we are still doubting we can be all we can be, then March brings the hard learning level into play.  The month of choices between these two pathways has the ability to bring us to the depths of ourselves to release the last of our internal fighting.  We will still have aspects that we need to heal but we never can remain in the one spot. EVER!  So choices represented by these two new golden pathways become so very individualised for only you can decide for you and for all those people wailing but I just want PEACE.  It comes from within and how peaceful are you truthfully with all those accusations you keep piling on yourself about your worth? Hmmz funny how you don’t want to make eye contact right now….

Look I am not meaning to say that March will be challenging, (so quit with the eye rolling), I am saying you need to get truthful and by that I mean truthful with yourself.  We think we have so much time as humans, that we will get to that and heaven forbid we also say it will happen when it it meant to happen.  Yes that is true, but we outmaneuver ourselves a hell of a lot too.

Everything that orchestrates in our world is either teaching us something or responding to us.   We need to give ourselves more permission to have a pathway lit up with all of the things that we want.  We think at times we have to earn stuff, and we do if that is part of what we planned for ourselves, but we are really shirking having the lives we want when we are constantly selling ourselves excuses.   The pathways are in front of you guys, and boy are they, in this Universal Year of Freedom, filled with opportunities.  Don’t miss them, get creating.  Stop hiding waiting for the hammer to fall, because in March it may well do, just to wake you out of inertia.

Personally I’d take the second pathway, the lit up one if I was you, because life is for living and you finally get a chance to create something special away from old thinking, old patterns and behaviours…  CREATE IT GOOD… Stop procrastinating for the love of Mike, and get those projects up and get into them, its about not just knowing you have wings, or remembering that but DOING something about it that makes the Universe go, I sooooooooooo got you covered for EVERYTHING…..

We are on the edge of tomorrow people… what kind of tomorrow are you invested into making…  its up to you…





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Spirit Whispers: Relationship Energy and the Unlearning…

This time of year always represents its challenges with Christmas looming and the thoughts of connecting families that have interesting dynamics.  But more so than anything in this energy at this time of year being all about relationships, it is set to be an interesting Christmas to say the least.

I have been spending time with the Guides asking for understanding about what is happening in relationships and certainly have been doing that with my own interpersonal relationships coming under fire as well!  How can relationships that have been really stable for years and years suddenly be collapsing and why are dynamics changing so quickly with friendships and colleagues that you have worked with for years as well.

You may find yourself feeling like you are on a roller coaster within yourself as well as you struggle to find stable ground within yourself and the relationship with you.  Certainly no one person is unaffected in this energy.

I love what one of my clients said. “Oh I will just hang out to February and then we will be past this energy”  I laughed.  Unfortunately if you are not prepared to see you as a major part of this push then you won’t be releasing old issues in the way you need to and certainly past February it won’t be any easier for you.   We do so dislike having to address our stuff don’t we?

I have talked about the Unlearning before as I have spent a huge amount of time discussing this with the Guides as well.  How do you unlearn? The key of course takes recognition of a pattern or behaviour and a realisation that it is actually you that is the key.  You either created, owned or believed and adopted a behaviour and usually for a really valid reason yet it is not one that will serve you in the long run.

To give you an example, and I will use myself because I too am having a human journey as well.  One of my learned insecurities is to do with approval.  I get extremely stressed if I perceive that a person doesn’t like me (now I have got a lot better with this because I know my pattern). I can let my brain race off into all the things I could do to “earn” that persons approval, contort myself into discomfort, just to try and win that persons approval at the same time really being cruel to myself about what I “lack” that would make that person happy.   That is a VERY common pattern for people to do and be here on the earth plane to learn about.

The”Unlearning” is recognizing a) that I am doing it for a start and b) implementing self approval so I don’t need to feed my insecurity off others.    In a way, its coming back to my own needs rather than reinforcing the same pattern and behaviour and using other people to blame for not giving me what I desperately need to give myself.

I love what the Guides say about the Unlearning;  “To truly be at peace with oneself, you must look to all the ways that you have learned to judge, to betray, to sabotage, to reject, to be disloyal, unloving to yourself and then within those wounds, you will find the way to love yourself well”.

Okay, I hear you it IS easier said than done.  However, if you are anything like me I would like to be living my beautiful life WITHOUT killing myself and my external relationships on the way!   There is always a starting point and that starting point Gorgeous people is you.   As always the key here is awareness.   When you see a behaviour that someone else is doing and you think oh for goodness sake stop being so pathetic.  Understand this, you are judging them completely for maybe something that they have learned on their own pathway.   What if they don’t know any different because their experiences have given them their own belief structure and learned patterns and they too are struggling with unlearning what doesn’t serve them either? and to be honest, their behaviour pattern MAY be one of yours but you are just not in that space at that time?

Best thing to do at this time is to look inward.  Apply understanding to where they may be coming from and bring in extra nurturing to yourself as well.   As humans we love to over analyse this and that.  Spend endless hours over thinking why someone behaved this way, that way, what was my role in that, how did that happen.  To the point we can do our own head in, but what we are doing is analysing someone else by THEIR own belief and learned structure in comparison with ours.   Then worse we spent hours trying to get that person to understand where WE are coming from.

STOP!  In this energy it is completely and utterly impractical to do that.  In this energy people are completely confused by their own reactions and in an attempt to avoid at times their own stuff, they want to walk away.  I think I have heard so many “I’ve had enough’s” this month to sink the Titanic.  Yes, you are meant to have enough.  But if you walk out of one relationship not understanding you are part of the equation, where do you think you are taking that energy?  Right into the next relationship that’s where and then the cycle and pattern repeats itself again.

I hear so much I want my person to understand me.  Hmmz… you do realise that mostly you don’t understand yourself and worse you may be asking another person who has NO idea where your beliefs, learning and core structure came from because their life experiences were completely different from yours, to understand something that is completely beyond their comprehension and they may never understand it?

Then I hear this “But they have been with me for 25 years, they should know this?”  HOW?  When did you ever tell them about those invisible boundaries, invisible learnings and invisible RULES to relationships that you have in your head?     Stop expecting people to GET you on invisible stuff that they have no idea about and better yet stop being unkind with it.

In this relationship energy STOP with the brain stuff ok?  Open your mouth and VERBALISE what your needs are.  Speak from your heart not your mind.  This is the crux of understanding this energy and working in it.  Stop leaving things unsaid because you expected understanding, support and nurturing in invisibility.

One of the hardest lessons for me these last 6 weeks has been realising HOW much I have got into a bad habit of distorting the intention of my partner into annoying me.   He doesn’t, he has his own learning and way of doing things that is different than mine.  At some point in complacency I decided that his way was WRONG.  It isn’t it is his way and its absolutely fine to be that way.   We just forgot to communicate about it.  Both of us felt unheard by the other and the annoyances got bigger.  Jockeying for position of being heard meant words got more aggressive, being right became more important and listening went out the window.  THAT became a pattern in itself and in those moments it is really EASY to think that the relationship is doomed.   It isn’t, you just created a new pattern based on your own unfulfilled need to be heard on your own terms.  If the other person feels exactly the same way you just BUTT heads over and over again until resentment, frustration and anger becomes an integral part of your whole relationship until it’s destroyed.

Think about this, usually you have a really good reason why you do something.  WHAT if everyone does?   What if you stop and say “can I ask you why you did that?  What was your intention behind that?  How did you feel about that?”     What if we stopped over thinking, over analysing each other and came down to being honest with each other in compassion and understanding?

Clarity is the key here.   Thinking about WHY you reacted the why you did and is it a pattern of yours (facepalm I think you know that one will be confronting)  Looking where else in your relationships you play out those patterns (double facepalm) and THEN consciously saying I will do the opposite because that pattern has never served me and makes me feel so unhappy.    For me taking a moment to say to myself I am not going to start an argument here, I don’t need to be right, changed so much.  Instead I said to my partner, thank you I value your opinion and what you showed me I needed to heal in me.    The solution is simple if you are prepared to understand what is happening in this Unlearning and Relationship energy.

Mostly we are seriously crappy communicators and this energy demands we be more honest with ourselves, old habits and whether we are cherishing and respecting ourselves and each other in relationships.  The Art of Compromise is what brings successful relationships not an overwhelming need to be right or play out old patterns learned from parents, or silblings in the cruelest ways with each other.

There is always gifts in how we learn and unlearn,  there is always a benefit to our understanding, if we know this and work through it we grow and start to have the successful relationships we want and we heal simply. Look for your patterns in how you test people, treat people and yourself and realise it is ALWAYS reflected and projected into your other relationships.  Then and only then do you find the way forward back to loving you and the people who are in your world unconditionally and with an inherent appreciation for their learning and experiences.
Now is perfect!





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Spirit Whispers: Projection, Dejection, Reflection, Connection

Wow, at times when people get busy on the earth plane, time can really, really fly!  Kind of feel like apologising for not blogging but the one thing about a human life journey is that no matter how spiritual you are or in my case how much I try and float above the planet, there is always earth plane stuff to pull your focus back to being totally present in your life.

The balance is always knowing that you can be Spiritually active within your human life at the same time everything else is going on.   Even though I may be preoccupied with the earth plane stuff, the Guides and Angelics are working everyday with their wisdom and advice.  So remember if the going gets tough, your support crew is still right there with you helping as much as they possibly can as you work through to clarity.

Feeling stuck, ask for an Angelic hug.  There is nothing like the feeling of being encased in warm wings as they wrap around you and the feeling of being loved, calm and belonging is out of this world.  Give it a try ♥

Anyhoo back to the blog subject!   We are slap bang in the middle of relationship energy at the moment and it is truthfully governed by the relationship that you have with yourself.

I am getting so many people across my doorstep who are being so affected by this energy as the Universe simply squeezes on us to release all those old belief systems and unharmonious thought patterns that we have within ourselves.    The problem is when the Universe, bless it, does this, it can make us even more avoid ourselves than we usually do and when that happens we “project” our stuff outwards onto other people.  Hell, its so much easier to blame someone else isn’t it?   When we do this we cannot see that it is actually a denial of the unhealed aspects of ourselves and its making us crash and burn within relationships with partners and people we may have been connected with for years and years.

At times we all desperately want to be understood by others, and yet we rarely understand ourselves or give the same degree of support and love we need from us first.   Projecting our frustration outwards can cause the demise of something that was really good but leaves you wondering what exactly went wrong when the relationship suddenly goes sour after years.

That means a lot of dejected people after the initial break down of communication, we quite often turn things back on ourselves and get quite dejected that the Universe has now turned tables on ourselves and we feel like we are back to square one again trying to sort out both our feelings and what the heck happened and simply where to from here.    This first stage of reflection past that dejected feeling (which by the way is completely normal as your ego wants to continually blame something or someone else), is to reflect on what happened.   If you have evolved enough in yourself to see that you are an equal part of the Universal equation in all your relationships and connections, you see why you felt that way.  Often this is too late for the current catalyst effect, BUT you grew and you learned and you decided what you would settle for and what you would not.

It is crucial at this stage to NOT start building regrets either about the other person or yourself, in reflection you always get to see what you could have done differently and therein lies the truth of the earth plane.  It is always about choice with you in the centre of those choices.  If you can cut yourself some slack and see aspects of you needed to heal and grow, you can then move forward into other connections armed with more knowledge about why you react the way you do and you see it was never about the other person but just growth.   So Connection becomes a more loving and wiser process.  That’s if you work it through with love and compassion for yourself, others and the learning that was involved.

This energy Spirit calls at the moment is the “Unlearning”, when OLD, OLD habits and behaviours, insecurities and suspicions are rising like bubbles in a glass of water within you to be released and healed.  The big push through to February (Don’t groan) is about releasing and healing, forgiving and growing and what better way to really truthfully address our stuff through our closest and most personal relationships.

We don’t often see that we are both the cause and the solution to our own growth, but there is no need to continually blame external situations either.  Down here on the earth plane, its is sooooooooo important to be loving yourself, forgiving yourself and letting go of old stuff so you can evolve.     I simply LOVE what a beautiful man in Spirit said to me the other day and I will share it with you.

“On the earth plane it’s so easy to get caught up in stuff that isn’t even yours.  Lose yourself off your path and into the bushes, stumble over obstacles and rocks and completely miss the point of being.   That’s the whole purpose.  Being.  You get to love yourself in totally new ways by experiences that force you to look at who you want to be and become.  It IS all about you, with others helping you to see that.  If you sit in the bushes moaning about your load and all the stubbed toes it sure makes you a miserable git.   Wish I had of simplified things, appreciated people more, thanked the people who I thought were idiots for teaching me to be me and just loved more.    Hindsight, huh, buggar.    My advice would be to forgive yourself first for just being down there to learn and then love people for making your life interesting!”

I have Lao behind me with a hand on my shoulder, this lovely Chinese guide who is teaching me the Art of Being and so much so I understand that in this Unlearning, a lot of it is learning to let go of the Judgement of Self we have carried for so long and learning also to stop judging others.

So take a moment to think.  What are you projecting onto others that is actually yours.  Where is your dejection you think this always happens to you?  and actively move more into reflection of wisdom because beyond that is a new way of connection with both yourself, others and the Universe.   We are getting lighter people, growing and changing, time to release stuff.   Also as an aside, all those annoying little twinges and problems that have you racing off to the Doctor in this energy, that is your body also trying at a cellular level to help you release all your cell baggage too.  You are energy condensed into matter, and your matter is also responding to the need to Unlearn.  So start loving your hurt bits, get in appreciation of your body and stop resenting it and start listening to it in where you have hidden old stuff in it that needs to be released and flow through the processes.

After all, we are all in this together and with the passing of this Universal Year of Implementation, we are moving into a Universal Year of Freedom, this means you gotta shed the baggage of the heavy you so you can embrace your year of freedom to be the real you.  Now (smiles at Lao) is absolutely perfect!




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